Child Custody Mistakes | What You Need to Know

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When it comes to child custody, there are certain mistakes to avoid. Read on to learn more.

How is custody determined?

There is a lot that goes into making a custody decision. For example, a judge may consider the following factors:

  • The parents’ ability to communicate, cooperate and agree regarding matters of the child
  • The parent’s willingness to accept custody and any unwillingness to allow parenting time
  • The relationship of the child with their parents and siblings
  • Any history of domestic violence
  • The safety of the child and the safety of one parent from another
  • The preference of the child when of sufficient age
  • The child’s needs
  • The stability of the home environment
  • The quality and continuity of the child’s education
  • The fitness of both parents
  • The geographical proximity of the parents’ homes
  • The parents’ employment responsibilities

What are the biggest custody mistakes to avoid?

When a judge is making a custody decision, he or she is working to make a decision that is in the child’s best interest. As a result, your behavior will play a large role in the decision. Because of this, it is important to avoid making the following mistakes:

  • Posting on social media
    • It is important to avoid posting on social media. For example, even something as seemingly innocent as posting a photo sharing a glass of wine with a friend can be used against you. It is important to know that even deleted posts can be accessed and a private account cannot protect your information. Additionally, ask your loved ones to refrain from posting about you.
  • Badmouthing your child’s other parent
    • It can be tempting to rant about your child custody situation, but it is important that you do not do so publicly, especially not in front of your child. This can cause serious anxiety for your child and can damage his or her relationship with both you and their other parent. Additionally, it can be seen as a refusal to co-parent.
  • Failing to follow court orders
    • Ignoring court orders can impact your custody case, but it can also land you in legal trouble. It is important to adhere to your custody schedule and contact an attorney if you have any issues with it.

If you have any questions or concerns about custody mistakes in New York, our firm is here to help. Reach out today to discuss your case with an experienced attorney.


Peter V. Mandi, Esq. is an experienced divorce and family law attorney located in Bohemia, New York. Our firm understands the impact a divorce can have on your life. If you require strong and dedicated legal representation in Long Island, New York, please do not hesitate to contact Peter V. Mandi & Associates, Inc. today.

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