If you are not familiar with the process of mediation, it’s a good idea to educate yourself ahead of time so that you feel confident with the process, before you even arrive. There are a lot of decisions you’ll need to make under the guidance of a New York mediator, so coming in prepared goes a long way.
You have to come to the table with the conscious goal to mediate first. If you don’t approach the process with an open mind, you’ll never move forward successfully. In order to make sure that you show up on the first day with the key issues that needs to be discussed, put together a list of all assets and possessions. It does not matter whether you think the item is yours or your spouse’s – your goal is to create a master list. When it comes to dividing property, it’s much easier for the divorce mediator to help you when he or she knows everything that is on the table.
You should also gather up all the records that you have regarding sources of income, such as: loss statements, profit statements, paystubs, social security, child support payments received, or alimony payments received. The same goes for expenses: make a thorough list. Start with a rough draft at least a week in advance of your first mediation session, so that you have time to fine-tune it before the meeting itself.
Having these documents prepared and totally organized on the day of your first mediation hearing helps to clear up any confusion, but also to put forth a roadmap for what needs to be discussed during the mediation itself. Come prepared with your own documents to make the process easier and more streamlined.